Are you guilty of being constantly shy? Do you suffer from chronic shyness? Likewise, do you feel uncomfortable every time you try to socialize, especially with people you’ve never met before? If you answered yes to these questions, then you’re definitely a shy person who needs some kind of help.
Fortunately, it’s possible to overcome shyness, no matter how shy you are. There are a lot of simple, yet effective steps that will allow you to overcome shyness without exerting a lot of effort at all. By the end of the day, you’ll be surprised at how you’ve progressed — you’d even notice that you can easily socialize with other people, without feeling awkward at all!
1) Remember the Special Details
Have you ever been in a situation where it seems difficult to keep the conversation going? Shy people experience that every time, but here’s an effective tip for you guys: if you’ve met someone before, try to remember something important that he/she had shared with you during the previous meeting. This can be anything, such as his newly discovered restaurant, her favorite manicure, or the movie she’s planning to see.
You can use this information during the current interaction with that person, in order to show that you were indeed listening to what he/she was talking about before. If you’re not aware, bringing up a subject that matters to another person is a great way to make her feel special, and she’ll definitely reciprocate by giving you more details about herself.
Also, even if you still feel a little shy talking to that person, it’ll be easier now, because there will be a reason to continue the dialogue.
2) Ask Yourself: Should You Even Feel Shy?
Whenever you feel anxious, especially when you’re about to interact with someone, try your best to analyze your emotions. Oftentimes, all you need is a little push and a small dose of realization to put that shyness aside.
Ask yourself, why are you even shy? This will help you realize that there’s no reason to feel like that at all.
Yes, it’s true that shy people often feel vulnerable, and the only way to solve this problem is by convincing yourself that reality isn’t as bad as what your head tells you. Even if you don’t succeed, or it still seems a little uncomfortable, you’ll notice a slight change happening with how you interact.
Another way to initiate a conversation and keep it going is by complimenting the other person. Though, make sure that the compliments you’re going to deliver are simple and sincere– not something made up. Likewise, over complimenting can make the person feel that you’re not even sincere, and you’re just throwing those compliments for the sake of having a conversation. On the other hand, a simple, yet sincere compliment can make the person feel special and more interested in what you have to say.
4) Pay Attention to Your Gestures
If you’re not aware, your body language plays a vital role in how you communicate. Even though verbal language is an ideal way to convey what you want to say, body language shows what you really feel. That’s why it’s important to be more open with your gestures and make it a habit to smile, whenever you’re talking to someone else.
Richard Phelps has been helping people overcome chronic shyness for more than ten years. In that time, I’ve gained a huge amount of knowledge about the best ways to dissolve shyness and develop unstoppable self-confidence. As a personal development coach, it is my goal to help people understand how they can bloom socially – without having to spend a ton of cash in the process.